Greetings!  

I’m Ness. I’m a gratitude seeking, fitness enthusiast, who’s inherently wired for connection and community. I’m also the proudest Mumma Bear to three amazing little humans - Tomas, Ella and Ari and one guardian angel, Harry.   

I would love to use this platform to encourage and elevate our thinking, whether its about spirituality or personal development, fitness, health or happiness. 

Writing has always been a medium I've enjoyed and I've kept journals from the time I was 8 years old.

I’ve always been motivated to write down and share my experiences as its helped me to figure out my world from a space of curiosity, growth and gratitude.  

Under the themes of Move. Grow. Love : I cover a smorgasbord of topics from workouts to spiritual wisdom, single parenting to self-love.
 
My hope is that we build our own community that nurtures and inspires one another, while also getting strong and fit together. 

So if you’re reading this, Welcome! 

Grab a cuppa and settle in.  

Ness x 

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Grow

This month, I took up the Four Life Changing Exercises challenge and something big came up for me.

When I was setting my daily intentions, I kept on coming back to the desire to trust my own intuition. My own knowing. 
 
So often we seek validation, input or advice from loved ones without sitting in our stillness – listening and responding to the truest part of ourselves, and then making decisions from this place. It can be scary and we're often riddled with self-doubt. 
 
Surely there’s another, better way, if we ask someone else what they think? 
 
When we stop listening to that voice inside of us, like a muscle, it gets weaker. We can’t trust it because our inner voice is so timid. 
 
In times of uncertainty, we crave certainty like a drug addict fixing for their next hit. We want confidence. A full proof, kick-arse action plan to a challenge we’re facing. So we turn to friends, podcasts, clairvoyants or social media to help provide the answer.
 
Or we numb or drown out the issues we're facing by putting our head the sand, or downing that 5th packet of chips or second bottle of wine. Netflix. Instagram. Twitter. News Updates. Whatever takes us away from feeling all our feelings, or sitting still with them and getting real with ourselves. 
 
When in fact, the answers we need, that honours our personal integrity, heart, and truest desires - are all found within. 
 
We just need to turn up the volume on this inner voice and trust it. 
 
So I started flexing my “knowing” muscle this month and it’s been insightful. 
 
I’ve been spending more time in silence. Asking myself questions I would generally ask my sister or best mate. And listening. Really listening to my inner reply; not only through my internal dialogue but with the sensations in my body. And being curious about what this is teaching me. 
 
Do I feel lighter, calmer? Do I sleep better at night after I have said or acted on something, from this place of Knowing? Hell yes!
 
Do I feel more constricted, angry or anxious in my body or chest? If so, why? What’s at the core of this? What are these sensations or emotions trying to tell me? 
 
The body keeps the score. 
 
It gives us visceral clues on how we are feeling and responding to a person or situation, well before our mind cottons on. 
 
In the wise words of Glennon Doyle : “I started paying close attention to patterns in my body, because my body often clarifies for me what my mind is too convoluted and hopeful to accept. Bodies won’t lie, even when we beg them to.”
 
Rather than getting angry at someone else for their behaviour, staying open and curious to the question - what is my emotional or physical reaction to this person or situation, telling me about ME? 
 
Then listening. And responding from this place of self discovery and clarity. A space of knowing. 
 
So friends, the journey continues! 
 
Staying open. Curious. Embracing stillness. Trusting my inner voice, rather than seeking external input, will continue to be a life-long practice. 
 
But I’m glad I’ve begun the journey. It may help you on your own too?
 
Until next time...
May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you be at ease. 
Ness x